“I Have More Money Than I Can Possibly Spend…”
A multi-millionaire made this statement to me once, and he was right. The rest of the sentence that came out of his mouth is what struck me hard, and forever changed my definition of being rich. It also changed the way I served my clients.
“…,but I’ve lost everyone that matters to me in the process.”
Variations of this scenario have come up time and time again over the past ten years, whether it’s having a spouse leave or grown children who barely know you. Too often we rationalize that we are taking care of our family by providing for them, but if we are not investing in those relationships we are providing for, an empty emotional bank account can leave you bankrupt.
As a financial advisor I conduct seminars that called, “Financial Keys to Success.” During that seminar attendees are asked this very pointed question:
If you had great health, and enjoyed all the normal physical capabilities, and yet you knew you had exactly six months to live – what would you do?
The challenge then becomes even more difficult by allowing only sixty seconds for all the attendees to write down at least five things.
Think about it. What would you write?
It’s an interesting thing to watch the faces as they grow serious and intent. People all around the room are furiously writing their answers.
There’s no secret to what most of the answers are. Not once has anyone wrote down that they would immediately go out and buy a bigger house. Or invest in more stocks and bonds. Or ask for a promotion at work.
What do you think is at the top of nearly every list? If you said anything to do with relationships you win the prize.
Attendees are then encouraged not to wait for a “death sentence” to get started on their list.
Valuable relationships are essential to living a rich, fulfilled life on purpose; and such relationships never happen by accident. Nor should relationship nurturing be postponed.
Have you ever been guilty of saying (or even thinking) “I’ll have more time with my spouse after I retire”? Or “I’ll spend more time with the kids after this business is up and running”?
What if that kind of tomorrow never comes? Take a moment and answer the question presented above. What’s at the top of your list?
The person who lives a fulfilled, rich life doesn’t place relationships on the back burner to simmer until later in life. The rich life is one where relationships are invested in and tended to on a daily basis. Determine that you will spend quality time with those who mean the most to you. And do it today.