Living Life as a Battlefield


During a seven-year process of mentoring phone calls, research and study, author Steve D’Annunzio saw a pattern emerge. Five distinct “modes of being” became evident that proved to have a profound impact on business productivity and personal happiness.

“I had assumed that life circumstances and many other external factors (education, social status, degree of nurturing by caregivers, etc.) predisposed them to success, but the opposite was shown to be true. It was their internal level of consciousness that most powerfully influenced their life results.”


 In other words,

what you believe has more of an impact on whether or not you will be successful than any other outside factor.

Not only does it affect how you behave, but it also influences the kinds of clients you attract and the way others behave towards you.


People react to what you are being more that what you are saying.


So how do you find out what you are “being”? You might put on a mask of confidence, talk the talk and hand out cards, but if inside you fear being misunderstood and rejected, you’ll not get the favorable outcome you hope for. Do the voices inside your head sound like this: 


That will never happen to me . . . Life is such a struggle . . .  It’s a dog-eat-dog world and if I don’t get mine, someone else will . . .


When you view life as if it were a giant battlefield, things will be hard for you. Others will have to fall in order for you to rise and you’ll remain stuck worrying about basic necessities. Your experience will be one of flight or fight, anxiety and self-doubt. Your will to achieve will also be diminished. 


“Fear Mode” is by far the most unproductive mode to operate from and left unchecked, often leads to sabotage or failure.


On a scale of 1-5, this is the lowest mode of being and very easy to slip into because it is everywhere. Recognizing this behavior in others can be a good first step towards recognizing it in yourself. The question is, once you notice it, what can you do about it?


How can you shift out of merely surviving into a mode where

thriving is possible?


“Man is where he is that he may learn that he may grow; and as he learns the lesson which any circumstance contains for him, it passes away and gives place to other circumstances.”     James Allen, As A Man Thinketh


When I started viewing Life more like a School as opposed to a battlefield, my life and success began to improve dramatically. The “bad” things that happened were no longer a punishment. I was able to look at them as lessons that led me to the next “grade level”. This has become a very productive way to view failure.


When something doesn’t go the way you had hoped, look at the experience as a road marker or a sign, alerting you to areas that need attention.


You might find yourself directed down a surprisingly different path.


Viewing life in this way, no one and no thing is out to get you. The only “punishment” for failure is the necessary experience of repeating the lesson again.  


The question, Why is this happening to me? then becomes

What is the lesson here?


Learning to make this valuable shift can lead you to places you never thought you could go.  You will no longer be the victim left out on the battlefield, but the beloved student enrolled in the curriculum of Life. And you will find teachers everywhere, often in the most unexpected of places.


I leave you with the following quote from Jerry Garcia, Once in a while you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right.”


Does Life School have a sense of humor? Have you ever had to repeat the same course over and over? Share your story and become a teacher to others– I invite you to post a comment!


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About Beau Henderson

Beau Henderson is a financial advisor, author, coach, radio personality, and CEO of RichLife Advisors. He has helped over 3,000 clients to not just improve their relationship with money, but to live the life of their dreams.


  1. Sharon O'Day on July 19, 2011 at 7:12 am

    As in so many other things, Beau, too many people focus on the external.  Yet it's really all about the internal, isn't it?

  2. Olga Hermans on July 19, 2011 at 11:34 am

    There are most defintely tests in our life and as we overcome them first on the inside, our life changes on the outside. We are what we think, and when we change our thoughts, our actions, habits, character and our future will change. It is a wonderful process, but oh so difficult at times! Thanks Beau

  3. denny hagel on July 20, 2011 at 3:15 am

    Beau,  I couldn't agree more and hope that the message of your article reaches millions, understanding the power of our mindset is key to real change, not just in our personal lives but in the world. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and insights!

  4. Beau Henderson on August 11, 2011 at 3:31 am

    Sharon, That is so true!  The key to changing the external is almost always internal.

  5. Beau Henderson on August 11, 2011 at 3:35 am

    Yes Olga,

    Our beliefs determine our behaviors. Our behaviors determines our actions, and our actions determine our results.  Most of the time we focus on the behavior, but in reality we need to work on changing the belief.

  6. Beau Henderson on August 11, 2011 at 3:36 am

    Thank You Denny!

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