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Grief in Retirement – with Bob Laura

We’re trained our entire lives to be productive, go to work, do well, set tasks, and accomplish things – and, really, most of that’s taken away at retirement. Although we don’t often talk about it, it’s very common for people to grieve the loss of their job because they suddenly lose all of those things.

We want you to know that grieving your job is normal, and help you unpack some of what you’re feeling (or will feel).

We are joined once again by Robert Laura, a retirement activist committed to changing the way people think about and prepare for every aspect of retirement and the Founder of the Retirement Coaches Association.


  • What disenfranchised grief is.
  • Why grief in retirement is normal.
  • How to proactively break the “chains of retirement.”


Unlike grieving for a loved one, grieving for your job isn’t often acknowledge or honored by society as a whole – a phenomenon called Disenfranchised Grief. Because we feel disenfranchised, it can be especially isolating.

“It’s no different than the emotion you feel at the loss of a loved one or through a divorce. It’s powerful. It hurts. It’s real. But people don’t know what to do with it.”

While we don’t necessarily grieve everything – most of us will probably be fine without the rush hour commute – we grieve the loss of the things that gave us meaning and fulfillment: the camaraderie, a purpose of getting up in the morning, the physical nature, etc.

QUESTION: What can I do if you’re experiencing disenfranchised grief?

We’re always told to deal with grief in a certain way; let go and move on. But you really don’t have to let go!

It’s okay to preserve some of the activities you like from work, keep in touch with your friends, and try to keep some of those memories alive.

And understand that grief typically comes in waves – in the beginning, it can be very heavy and crash down hard, but in the future, they get less frequent and less harsh.

Awareness can cut down on some of the negative impact of grief.

QUESTION: If I’m transitioning into retirement, or will be soon, what can I do to proactively minimize grief?

While you’re transitioning into retirement, start figuring out how you’re going to replace the things that you like about work. What are the five or six things that you really enjoy, and what can you do to actively replace them?

This can be as simple as making plans to spend time with your friends from work outside of work or donating your time to a local organization that needs your expertise.

This is also a perfect time to consult a retirement coach. They know that you can suffer from grief, and they know the questions to bring up to help you see it, understand it, and start to plan for it.


Go to and send an email telling us how you’ve dealt with losing your career, or your thoughts about retirement coming up.

If retiring (or the thought of retiring) makes you mad, depressed, angry, anxious, or even ecstatic, we want to know about that! How is retirement affecting you?

To say thank you, Bob and Beau will send you a Retirement Success Pack to help on your retirement journey.


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About Beau Henderson

Beau Henderson is a financial advisor, author, coach, radio personality, and CEO of RichLife Advisors. He has helped over 3,000 clients to not just improve their relationship with money, but to live the life of their dreams.

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