I Did It All By Myself
hidden dangers when operating from Pride Mode
In the mid 1800’s, Dr. Sylvester Graham promoted a new kind of flour – whole grain and exceptionally nutritious. Shortly after that, one Dr. James Jackson used this Graham flour to create the first breakfast cereal by baking it into dense nuggets. But the product, called granula, was so hard, it could chip your teeth if wasn’t soaked over-night before eating!
Enter Dr. John Kellog, who, in 1876, conceived the modern day granola and went on to become the cereal tycoon we know of today.
When reading history, it’s easy to see how we build upon the ideas of others and how one discovery could not have been possible without what came before. This is true of any success story, from entrepreneurs to athletes, yet the temptation to operate under a false sense of pride often prevails, particularly after one achieves financial success.
Backed by power and status, one’s self-image begins to rise,
right along with the certainty that money always leads to happiness.
Different from the previous two modes, Pride Mode often comes with success in one’s chosen career field. Most people feel so good at first, they ignore any signs that tell them otherwise. When those feelings of unfulfillment begin to catch up, guilt, anger, and resentment often multiply.
“I am more successful than most people in the world, and still I’m not happy??!!
What’s wrong with me??!!”
Even in this higher mode, happiness still depends on things going my way. The hidden danger here is that success often buys you a false sense of entitlement.
Because you are more deserving, you can rationalize breaking rules that you believe others should still follow. This is how CEO’s find themselves stealing from their employee pension plans or manipulating profit and loss reports.
This is also why it is written, Pride goes before a fall.
How can you prevent this from happening to you? Pay close attention to the way you treat and view other people. When operating from Pride Mode, the world becomes your personal chessboard. People and relationships are viewed as pawns, as a means to an end, as transactions.
It’s my way or the highway – It’s just business – I’ll do whatever it takes
When thoughts like these become your way of handling the people in your life, take a big step back. This is your wake-up call. You have great intelligence, but your energy is being misdirected, used to control, demand, manipulate and exploit. There is a better way.
Instead of I win & you lose, look for the win/win.
In the bestseller classic, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey describes this paradigm as the Third Alternative. He writes: “It’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way.”
One person’s success does not have to come at the expense of others.
Respected professionals at the top of their field know the secret to building a RichLife: always operate with the client’s best interest in mind. Why? Because clients who are treated well come back. Clients who get exactly what they need tell others. And when working this way, you will build more than just financial wealth. You will gain friends and allies.
We have a new equation here, one that takes the pressure off
you always having to “win the game.”
Successful people understand that it’s the person, not the money, who is the asset. When was the last time you were treated like a transaction? What was your wake-up call? I’d love to hear it!
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